What I wouldn’t have given to have had this book 10 years ago… or even 5 years ago! How to be a Grown Up is Daisy Buchanan’s story of life from university to marriage, by means of several important lessons and realisations.
Here’s the back-of-the-book blurb….
Who feels like a grown-up when they’re eighteen? Or even twenty-one? With thirty fast approaching, journalist and agony aunt Daisy Buchanan found herself worrying about whether or not she was a ‘proper’ grown up yet. Her twenties had been a familiar tale of boyfriends lost, overdrafts spent, one-night stands, disastrous outfits and jobs that didn’t turn out to be quite what she had hoped. But had she learnt anything on the way? In her unstintingly honest and hilarious account of a defining decade, Daisy shared the highs and lows to show us that adulthood really is only in the eye of the beholder.
Or could it be that by surviving her mistakes she’d grown up without really noticing?
I remember starting university a shy little waif with zero small talk skills, terrified that people wouldn’t like me if they really got to know me. I am an introvert by nature; and Freshers Week was so full of loud, confident, bubbly 18-year olds who seemed to have zero fear of being in this new and overwhelming environment that I felt completely out of my comfort zone. At 18, I would look at older friends, or friends of friends, and think ‘By the time I’m their age, I’ll have everything completely sorted.’ Well, newsflash – I have just turned 30, and am thinking that maybe I need to revise that thought to ‘by the time I’m 40’! In truth, everybody is still figuring out this growing up nonsense, and this book is a lovely, honest and pretty damn funny reminder of that.
How to be a Grown up is broken down into chapters covering everything from ‘How To Be Confident’ to ‘How To Make and Manage Money’ (just two of my favourite chapters). There are even bonus tips on how to wash your hair right – this book has it all.
As she acknowledges at the start of the book, it is probably not going to tell you anything you don’t already know – but it’s always comforting to be reminded that you are, actually, doing ok.
“…as you get older, you start to believe that just being is enough, and you don’t have to wait to become perfect for your life to start.”
I would recommend this book to everyone – men and women, whether you’re just creeping into your twenties or they are a faint line on a distant horizon. We all need a little pick me up now and again, and this is literary medicine. Grab a copy, have a read and a laugh, and reflect on what you have achieved in life so far!
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